I noticed something today. Forgiving yourself is harder then forgiving someone else. Even when an infraction is over you have to deal with it in your own mind. The other person may not even be thinking about it.

Existential questions like this are important because they help me put the past in the past. Rumination on failure is never helpful. It can even make that same failure happen again. If you’re trying to change something negative it’s much more helpful to replace negative with positive, and if your mind is camping out with negative then positive isn’t going to be present.

And when you rehash negative with others negative is reinforced to survive. Silence that negative as soon as you can. Don’t pretend like it didn’t happen, but if the people you are with weren’t involved with that negative don’t bring it up. Foes and conflict need distance and time. You still get a do over as an adult.

Throw out the trash dear one. You will never regret it. Keeping the trash will create a life of regret.